Foreplay to Louie's Eulogy 2013
Every year at Christmas, I rewrite my Eulogy.
It is an exercise in forgetting who I was in order to remember who I am.
I am never surprised each year by the gift of change.
Here at Louieland..... it was the year of redefining, questioning the quest......and the repainting my self portrait in more than fifty shades of gray.
I’ve been to OZ and back. I’ve channeled Dorothy to The Wicked Witch of the West.......wishing that my house could have landed on more than a few scarecrows.
I learned to surrender on my own battlefields...... to wave my delicate white lacy hanky....... surrendering crucifixion to resurrection.
There are three things I do everyday..... that haven’t changed.
1) I never miss a Sunrise.
2) I never miss a sunset.
They are a reminder that beauty is always standing there in front of me. It is just taking the time to be with God. I now see the fire as a blessing:
Without a roof or ceiling ,I have a far better view of the moon and stars.
3) I never forget to pray every morning.
I say the same prayers for the same people who have come before me: my parents, their friends, and people past and present who have made my life so much richer: It is a long list of names but their ever presence reminds me to be grateful.... amid the chaos and disenchantment that I face daily.
I still believe in Santa and
I still believe in “Miracles on New Haven Rd”
This year,I pray for change .....for all of us :Change in our bottom line.
That people are happy...
That our children are cared for.......
And that life may move through us with grace.
Foreplay to Louie's Eulogy 2014
As usual every New Year’s Eve, I am sitting at home, preparing to rewrite my Eulogy of 40 years.I usually start with thoughts that arrive randomly from far away fairies and big burly construction workers from outer space,
I will overshare the foreplay to my Eulogy.
2016…. LIFE at LOUIELAND
Louie in a Nutshell:
It is sometimes difficult to have clarity when your windows are still covered with mason and sandblasting cement…. from the endless reconstruction of the fire aftermath.
The World is in desperate need of a collective human renaissance.
We are bombarded with too much information and too much chatter that is nurturing unrest in our souls. There is nothing feeding our hearts. We are starving for balance. The voice of fear has become louder than the voice of love. We are more educated and make more money, yet we have less common sense and less time to spend the money we make. Our standard of excellence, has been replaced by mediocrity.We have been homogenized, anesthetized, phamaceuticalized, Gieco-ized, Subway-ized and Pizza-Pizza-ized ….more than you can shake a Cialis stick to. Handwritten “thank you notes “are almost extinct as is cursive writing… once used by ancient civilizations of the 20th century. I miss the simplest of times….. when war was just a game of cards.
When your parents and their friends have transitioned to the other side, Christmas and New Years become just ordinary days.The Italian and European traditions that were once lovingly and religiously guarded by women of pioneer stock, like my Mama …are nearing extinction.
Never take for granted the times you sit with your family at the dinner table.
I was taught that God CREATED the heaven and earth in 7 days…. and I was CREATED in God’s likeness…. that is, if one believes the doctrines of the Roman Catholic Church. As a recovering Catholic, I realized that I could apply this “CREATING principal” ….. “to CREATING my life”. I had forgotten who I was in order to become who I thought I was supposed to be. It will be the conversation of next years Christmas letter, so stay tuned to “As The Louie World Turns.”
I watched one night of TV this year…… and between the election and the Viagra commercials, I had an epiphany: it was the year of election and erection.
Election ……Erection……..Election ……Erection
I thought…..”Either way you look at it……. we are getting F——-ed.”
I have now reached the age where I am almost everyone’s father and almost half of everyone else’s grandfather.When I am naked in front of mirror... the the former stud muffin has been miraculously transformed into a dud muffin. How the hell did that happen ?
Every day becomes a little harder to affect change and make other people’s lives better. In my youth, I had an answer for everything. Now I am a Medicare Dinosaur with a lifetime of experience... and I don’t know a friggin’ thing.
I was Superman.
Now I am Supperman…… and like all senior citizens, I can’t wait until the next meal of the day.
On a happy note…..the sun still rises and sets here in Louieland.
Some of my best friends are still myselves. Peter Pan and I fly with reckless abandon. I have to keep reminding myself that even dinosaurs have wings. It may not be pretty……but the sweet, tiny wings of the sparrow, no longer serve me.
I still believe in Santa,
I still believe that growing up doesn't mean growing old.
I have become as eternal as the Energizer Bunny on crystal myth……alive well and living in Louieland in the never-ending quest….. for no wife, liberty and the pursuit of happiness……….from tree to shining tree.
May this New Year as always , move through us with grace.
Play that funky music, white boy
Attributed to Mother Theresa
People are unreasonable, illogical and self centered;
Love them anyway.
If you do good, people may accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives;
Do good anyway.
If you are successful, you will win some false friends and true enemies;
The Good you do today will be forgotten tomorrow,
Do good anyway
Honesty and frankness make you vulnerable
Be honest and frank anyway.
What you spend years building, may be destroyed overnight;
People really need help, but may attack you if you help them;
Help People anyway.
Give the world the best you have, and you’ll get kicked in the teeth;
Give the world the best you've got anyway
Martha Graham and Agnes De Mille
“There is a vitality, a life force, an energy, a quickening that is translated through you into action. And because there is only one of you in all of time, this expression is unique. And if you block it, it will never exist through any other medium and be lost. The world will not have it. It is not your business to determine how good it is nor how valuable nor how it compares with other expressions. It is your business to keep it yours clearly and directly, to keep the channel open. You have to keep open and aware directly to the urges that motivate you.... no artist is pleased… there is only a queer divine dissatisfaction, a blessed unrest that keeps us marching on and makes us more alive than any other human beings
LOUIE QUOTES and Nicholisms …..
and living to the left of the 21st century © 2005
God determines who walks into your life
It is up to you who you let walk away….
Who you let stay….
And who you refuse to let go.
And leave the rest to God
Nicholism:Husbands , boyfriends and lovers come and go…….. but “girlfriends” are forever
Nicholism: When I grow up, I want to be a little boy
Nicholism In my aunt Raphalina’s house… when the smoke alarm went off… you knew it was time for dinner
Nicholism Some of my best friends are myselves
Nicholism If God had wanted me to do exercise and to touch my toes… he would have put diamonds on the floor
Nicholism Who needs the whole pig ….just to get a little sausage
Nicholism Louie’s mother…” Just remember I knew you when you didn’t have a pot to pee in”
Nicholism You can’t look at something for what it is. You have to look at it for what it can be
Nicholism Is it cheap because its ugly or is it ugly because it’s cheap
More is never enough
I wan More and more Amore
Nicholism Wine me …dine me…. And then divine me
Nicholism Put me on your table.. put me on your floor… put me on your bed… and hope you come back for more.
Nicholism I Design by day and dance by night
In concert, Louie was performing “Shakin Away the Bacon” an audience participation song.
Lady in the audience yelled out…” But Louie Im shakin my bunny as best I can”
Louie replied… Honey that ain’t no bunny… that’s a buffalo
Louie Lyric For Sears
Dracular in the vanacular.. said I love that Louie style.
I was dying to try it… so I went out to buy it… and found it was so versatile
Im concerned with things ..like home furnishings…
Though some people just won’t agree….
You can forget the rumor….. that I’m a fly by night consumer.
Im a sucker for My Louie Louie
Grandma Assunta:Everyday above da ground is a good day…cause whena you dead..you dead a longa time
Misers make wonderful ancesters
Nicholism Hey…Im not pretty but Im good
I started with nothing and I still have most of it left
Go placidly amid the noise and the haste,
and remember what peace there may be in silence.
As far as possible, without surrender,
be on good terms with all persons.
Speak your truth quietly and clearly;
and listen to others,
even to the dull and the ignorant;
they too have their story.
Avoid loud and aggressive persons;
they are vexatious to the spirit.
If you compare yourself with others,
you may become vain or bitter,
for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.
Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans.
Keep interested in your own career, however humble;
it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time.
Exercise caution in your business affairs,
for the world is full of trickery.
But let this not blind you to what virtue there is;
many persons strive for high ideals,
and everywhere life is full of heroism.
Be yourself. Especially do not feign affection.
Neither be cynical about love,
for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment,
it is as perennial as the grass.
Take kindly the counsel of the years,
gracefully surrendering the things of youth.
Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune.
But do not distress yourself with dark imaginings.
Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness.
Beyond a wholesome discipline,
be gentle with yourself.
You are a child of the universe
no less than the trees and the stars;
you have a right to be here.
And whether or not it is clear to you,
no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.
Therefore be at peace with God,
whatever you conceive Him to be.
And whatever your labors and aspirations,
in the noisy confusion of life,
keep peace in your soul.
With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams,
it is still a beautiful world.
Be cheerful. Strive to be happy.